What Matters Most in Love?

What do you look for in finding love? Is it about the physical aspect of how a man looks, his grooming, height and the chemistry you think you have with each other? Or is it on his wealth and what he can give to satisfy your wants and provide your needs? All these basis may push people far away from what they are looking for.

Love as the dictionary defines it is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. This is the tender loving care you seek and want to be shared with. If this is the idea of your search for love then both women and men must be wary of it.

How do you gauge your partner to be? As we search far and wide looking for the real man or woman for us we often tend to be too choosy and sometimes because of that we look for some experts to help us in our search. Some people pay for the benefit it could give them. Some Feng Shui experts became in demand for those who may have always been hurt in love and those who just want to have a good future in their relationships. Even renowned celebrities  asks  for their help but seldom can you see relationships work out if couples don't work it out themselves.

Who do you believe the most? Is it your mind, who tells you what to do and follow the advice of the Feng Shui expert? Believing that every word  they say is for good. Or is it the heart that you felt for that person, which you can rely most rather than other people who aims to protect you from unwanted heartaches in the future. Such dilemma can only be judged by a person who really knows what they got into. Real love and relationship can only be felt if each individual shows sincerity and not because what other can offer for them. Love is infinite it can be felt but never can it be controlled. So, if we want love we must work out for it and not rely on what others think we need to do to make things work out for the best.

The Ber Months

I suddenly realized that it is once again a ber month ...November. I remember quite clearly what I did 2 years ago. Although I was out of job I was not penniless. I had a small business way back then. but this didn't console my feelings of loneliness. 

The ber months always makes me somber and thoughtful. I hate the feeling though yet how can  I just disregard it. What a pity for me!! I know somehow I may not be the only one feeling like this when December is fast approaching.

December to me is always a snowy Christmas, I feel the coldness of the air, the weather which was always rainy, my eyes wet from reminiscing  of a love that has been forgotten as letters lay under my bed soaked with tears and marked by time. I wish I could forget all unhappiness in life. Nevertheless, those were happy memoirs of the past that are still treasured.

Now, I hope this December should be something new. How I wish that it will be a very fruitful Christmas!! I hope I shall never be alone again during these holidays. And that I could say my ber months has been very good so its a time to be cheerful as I will be facing a good year ahead.